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Facebook Haters - Anti Social Networkers

I was having dinner last night with a bunch of my girlfriends, during conversation I mentioned something about Facebook. My friend, Cindy said, "I get emails all the time by people wanting to be friends on Facebook. I think it's stupid and I just delete them." "What is Facebook?" another friend asked. "I never do that stuff" declared a third friend tersely. Being an UX person I seized the opportunity for some impromptu user research, I pressed Cindy to explain why she feels so strongly about about hating facebook. "All these things, facebook, youtube, myspace, friendster, are just a waste of time. I just dont care about any of that stuff!" I could tell she was just irritated by all those little invitations, as if they were some form of corporate sponsored email harassment.

We all know people like Cindy. I know LOTS of people like her.

Another friend (who does a lot of work on the internet) said, "I'm busy, and I hate it that I have to use 100 different websites just so that I can have a conversation with somebody about the internet. I don't need to share myself with the world in that way thinking that I might be 'discovered' by somebody..."

I get the feeling that the haters regard social network websites as just, work. For some reason most of the social networking haters in my life are women.

I wanted to tell my friends at dinner about how I've reconnected with old classmates through Facebook. How I could laugh at all of my friend's Halloween/baby/vacation photos. And how fun it all is. I wanted to tell them how my friends are able to promote their businesses and how artists are empowered to share their work on these sites. But really I wondered what is wrong with these websites that they seem to cause a lot of people, especially women, to just tune out.
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  1. Anonymous4:40 PM, November 28, 2007

    Holy instant research!
    http://www.jahonline.org/content/suppl07

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  2. Anonymous12:20 AM, December 09, 2007

    I don't know whether women think these sites are work, but I think that a lot of people don't like them because (a) they don't feel "safe" putting out personal details on the 'net for all to see - there's a lack of control over who can see your details - there are a lot of scare stories out there about that, and (b) maybe they feel that internet interactions are less "real" and less genuine than real-life face to face interactions.

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  3. Stephanie11:18 AM, December 09, 2007

    I agree with you Miffy. In fact my friend Cindy is a rather pretty girl who I suspect gets a lot more social milage from people when she can just talk to them face to face.

    I think these sites are work. I think Facebook is like a really convoluted email app. Reading email (to me) is work.

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